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“Brangelina” – Open for Business?
Posted by Tech Babe in Dating tips, Dating trends, Featured articles, Latest on January 25, 2010
With the recent hums of Brad and Angelina’s talks of a potential split, due to the introduction of an “open” relationship, it made me wonder. Is there such a thing? And could it actually work?
According to the ever-knowing online wiki, “an open relationship is a relationship in which the participants are free to have emotional, spiritual and/or physical relationships with other partners, often within mutually agreed limits. If a couple in an open relationship is married, it can be called an open marriage.”
Really? Let me dissect this definition a bit.
“…participants are free to have emotional, spiritual and/or physical relationships with other partners.” Ok, I get the “physical” aspect of it, but I don’t understand the “emotional” or “spiritual” arms of that statement. Why on earth would anyone be in a relationship if they haven’t attained an emotional or spiritual level with that person? That’s all that’s left in relationship outside of the sex part. Call it what it is– a “hook-up.”
“…within mutually agreed limits” translates to rules. Based on a few online publications I found on this topic, all shared a first and foremost fundamental rule on open relationships: Communicate and be open to sharing your experiences. Are you f***ing kidding me with this? First of all, if you’re not already communicating with one another, you’re wasting your time. And secondly, I highly doubt any man would sit through dinner where standard table conversation would be how I got rammed in the back door by a stallion. No thank you.
Here are a few other rules I found in a single online publication on open relationships:
- Always practice safe sex outside the relationship.
- No sex with mutual friends.
- Sexual encounters must not interfere with the couple’s customary or planned time together.
- Sex is permissible only when one partner is out of town.
- Outside sex is only allowed with advance agreement with one’s lover.
- Outside sex is allowed only when both partners participate.
- Outside sex is never permitted at home.
- Sex is permitted at home, but not in the bedroom.
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Aren’t relationships complicated enough without rules? Rules are what kills most relationships.
“If a couple in an open relationship is married, it can be called an open marriage.” Then why the hell did you get married in the first place? It would be more understandable if this was “green card” situation. Chances are, it’s not. Not in this context. Add kids to the mix and the entire family are prime candidates for a series of daytime talk shows.
Apparently, there is such a thing as open relationships, based on the wealth of online content out there on this very topic. Could it work? I don’t see how, looking at all of the rules in play. I’m no dating or relationships expert, but I’ve got a pretty good handle on common sense.
What about you?
The Jersey Shore Appeal
Posted by Tech Babe in Dating trends, Featured articles, Latest on January 15, 2010
What is it with those guys at the Jersey Shore? If there’s anything we can all take away from it, it’s the lines! Oh the lines! It’s reality entertainment at its best. What’s even more entertaining is, the lines these guys run and the attitudes they carry when they’re out “creepin’” actually work! Really?
“She ditched a zero and went for a hero.”
Mike, aka, “The Situation”, doesn’t seem to have a problem in the hook-up arena. Why? Let’s break it down. He’s self righteous, pompous, a major douche, and lives by the “GTL” credo (gym, tan, and laundry). The appeal? Confidence. Let’s face it, chicks dig assholes with confidence even though they refuse to believe so. Now that’s not 100% full proof, but a chick can at least mess around with an asshole for momentary fun.
“Girls love a DJ, so once they see me behind the wheels of steel over there, doing my thing… watch out.”
Pauly D is The Situation’s wingman which doesn’t always work out in his favor. He’s had to take more than one for the team. While he’s all about hooking up with chicks too, he’s not so obvious with it, unlike The Situation. His appeal is his style. It doesn’t hurt that he’s a DJ too.
“I would send her a picture of my dick in a pack of bubblegum & say ‘chew on this’.”
Ronnie, contrary to how the season started, is the only guy in the house that sealed a relationship with Sammie, one of the female room-mates. In more than a handful of episodes, Ronnie demonstrates his machismo attitude by “fists meeting face” against those that are threatening his pack. His appeal? He’s a protector with a sensitive side and is clear on what’s right and wrong. Chick’s totally dig this in a guy, just be smart enough not to go to jail.
“Then there are some girls that are respectful, that you have to just actually treat like girls, human beings.”
And finally, we have Vinny. Vinny’s the youngest guy in the guido household yet seems to have the most sense when it comes to chicks and hooking up. He takes a much more cool, calm, and collected approach to girl chasing. If he clicks with a girl, cool. If not, no biggie. He’s of a “chill” mindset; a “roll with the punches” kinda’ guy, which for some girls, is all they’re looking for.
Now that we have the break-down here, these guys have their own variation of appeal factors that all lead them to a successful hook-up. The girls they hook-up with are direct products of the appeal they send off.
Having said that, knowing what kind of appeal you send off and what you’re attracted to can explain why you choose the people you date. This, in turn, can save you a lot of time and energy when getting ready for your next date.
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