Posts Tagged Bedroom Tips

You’ve been dating for a few months now and everything is fantastic. You get along, get each other’s jokes, and the sex is like no other. You’re past the “fling” stage and you know this because you actually care what he/she is doing, regardless if you choose to admit or not. The big “uh-oh” sign is scrolling across your forehead like a Dow Jones stock crawl. Could it be? Yes. You now have feelings; feelings that go beyond the physical aspect. What comes shortly after is the unknown – even scarier. All sorts of questions start flooding your head. And then the ultimate question, that most are afraid to even ask and come face to face with…”Am I the only one?” You begin to wonder if he/she is dating anyone else. Let’s face it, everyone wants to be “the only one” for someone; even the most jaded.

Let’s get real for a second. No one in their right mind will ever simply admit they’re seeing someone else, especially if you have a great thing going. Those that do were never really “into you” the way you wanted them to be “into you.” So how do you know? Here are a few tell-tale signs that require no verbal communication to get the answers you’ve been dying to ask:

Uneasy Access

Alright, this is a pretty standard no-brainer. The unanswered phone calls, unresponsive texts, and deficient email communications are fairly telling. You can never get a hold of him/her when you want to, but if it were the other way around you’d step out of business meeting to take the call.

Terms of Endearment

After dating for a while, it’s not unusual to develop pet names for one another that’s specific to what you two know about each other. “Babe,” “Baby,” “Boo,” “Sweetie” are all too generic. So generic, in fact, that these terms of endearment are acceptably interchangeable with anyone and everyone else. “Stinky Pants” or “Bubble Butt,” on the other hand, are true testaments of a private moment you two have shared…alone.

Fixed Schedule

Are you the “M-W-F” or “T-TH-S” girl/guy? If you’ve established a fixed schedule for your hang-outs together, then there’s definitely something to worry about. While you’re with each other “M-W-F,” he/she could hold a whole other relationship the other days of the week. Mix it up. Be spontaneous. (Just trust me on this one.)

My Place or…My Place Again?

This is fairly straight-forward. I get it. There are some people that make it a big deal to open up their cocoon to someone other than themselves. And for good reason, I’m sure. But after six months of dating, or whatever time frame you deem appropriate, you don’t know so much of the color of his/her sheets, then there’s a problem. Even worse, you’ve already been to his/her place many times before and defiled every piece of furniture in sight and then all of sudden, you’re back at your place and your place only.

Again, these are just a few non-verbal signs of non-exclusivity. Of course, everyone has their own past experiences to develop their own list of signs and red flags. But this should get you started if you have that burning desire to ask the question. So to answer “Am I the only one?” you already know the answer. The rest is up to you to do something or nothing about it. Either way, protect yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally.